Anger Management for Men: A Different Approach

By Tad Lusk, LPC

Has your anger management ever gotten in the way of having good relationships with your significant other, your friends, or your coworkers?

Do you feel like you just can’t control your anger sometimes?

Maybe, you’ve tried to figure it out before. You might have even looked up “anger management” skills and tools, but didn’t quite find anything that worked for you.

If so:

  1. You’re definitely not alone.
  2. You’re in the right place.

When it comes to anger, we help guys get back in the driver’s seat and go on to lead healthy, happy lives. 

The problem is a lot of the info you’ll find on anger management is only designed to treat the symptoms, but not the root of the problem. At Denver Men’s Therapy, we take a uniquely in-depth, holistic approach to treat the core issues that cause anger. 

The Tip of the Iceberg

Anger is what’s called a “secondary emotion.” Not secondary in terms of importance, but simply meaning that anger stems from other “primary” emotions that lead to anger—underlying emotions that are less obvious but essential to deal with if you want to address anger.

In other words, the anger is what you see (the tip of the iceberg), but other primary emotions are what actually cause it (the rest of the iceberg hidden under the water). 

For example, anger often stems from unexpressed feelings like fear, helplessness, loneliness, shame, and hurt. Painful experiences in life can lead to these difficult emotions and beliefs. 

Similarly, a lot of men we work with have unresolved past trauma that manifests as anger. Anger can also be a symptom of male depression. The good news is there’s a powerful and effective treatment for that. 

A Different Approach

At Denver Men’s Therapy, we specialize in EMDR treatment for men.

EMDR stands for Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing and is a highly effective, clinically proven and empirically supported treatment for resolving trauma, and many other issues, including unhealthy anger responses. For example, anger responses, like chronic road rage, often stem from unexpressed feelings like fear, helplessness, loneliness, shame, and hurt. Painful experiences in life can lead to these difficult emotions and beliefs.

EMDR is a structured process that helps your brain process negative beliefs, symptoms, and memories and form new, more helpful connections. This allows you to create healthy reactions to painful memories.

As a result, clients usually experience positive results more quickly, feel more in control, and have healthier, calmer responses to the things that used to trigger anger and other negative feelings. 

What’s Next?

Anger can cause painful problems in men’s lives. It can disrupt or even ruin relationships, lead to chronic health problems, work disruptions, legal trouble, and more. 

If you’ve experienced any of these difficulties, or even if you just want to reduce your anger and improve your mood, the time to take action is now. You don’t need to suffer in silence. Anger may have caused problems for you in the past, but you can learn to be in control from here on out. You can get back on track before things get worse.

By taking charge of your anger and your health, you’re taking a step that takes tremendous strength and courage. Not only that, you’ll vastly improve your quality of life and relationships with the people you care about most. Meeting with a highly trained professional at Denver Men’s Therapy will help you feel like your true self again—strong and able to meet life’s challenges. 

Call us today at 720-295-4233




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