Life Balance for Men
Finding a Balance in Your Life is Key
Men’s roles at home, at work and personal time are radically different than they used to be.
Men are expected to take a more active role in the household and child rearing. Employment roles are changing and different than what used to be expected. And the notion of self care for men is a new and interesting concept. The most important part of navigating this new social landscape is finding balance between all three in a way that is healthy and helps to form and maintain healthy relationships.
A man’s role in the home has changed a lot from our fathers and grandfathers time. This change can only be described as for the better. Men these days are more involved in their children’s lives. They are taking an increasingly active role in the running of the household, rather than leaving it all in their wife’s hands. A major reason for this is the increased number of women entering the work force very soon after child birth.
With the cost of childcare being as high as it is, it often makes more sense for parents to split the child-rearing duties. In other cases, the woman in a relationship is the primary breadwinner so she returns to work and her husband takes paternity leave to care for the infant at home. Many men are also finding that they prefer to spend time with their children, taking on a role that has traditionally been reserved for women.
To go along with increased expectations in the home; men are still facing heavy pressure and expectations in the workplace. There is still an expectation to be the breadwinner. To bring home the bacon, as the saying goes.
Men adapting to shared roles in the home may still face prejudice at work due to their gender. A man who takes time off to care for a sick child may face reprimand. He may even find himself being questioned as to why he is taking time off, or why his wife can’t do it. Whereas a woman would almost never face similar reprimand for taking time off for her children. In addition to it being more difficult for men to take time off in order to care for children, there is also still stigma associated with job expectations.
As mentioned above, some men are taking paternity leave while their wives return to work full time. While this can be incredibly emotionally fulfilling and help create a wonderful bond with his children, it is not
without its difficulties.
There are very few “dad” groups for men to get together with other dads and their children. However, there is a huge number of “mom” groups. Non-gender segregated groups like library sponsored play groups are still dominated by moms. Leaving men feeling increasingly on the periphery of a world they are trying so hard to be a part of. The modern father needs modern support. Denver Men’s Therapy is here help navigate these difficult waters and to provide support.